Safety & Consent

Our Philosophy

SoulPlay creates environments that encourage people to come together, expand and grow, and experience bliss. In order to expand and grow, people need to get out of their comfort zone and take risks. We believe, if we are inviting our participants to take risks we must prioritize creating a safer space for everyone. 

We do this through our three pillars of safer space: Presence, Choice, and Support. 

Presence means that people are aware of their actions and the impact they have on others. This is why we encourage people to refrain from using any mind-altering substances. We also encourage people to continously reflect on their actions, thus creating more awareness and intentionality. When all people are really present, it allows people to explore their edge in a safe and constructive way. 

Choice is the basis of consensual interactions. We believe that expanding your comfort zone and taking risks should be your choice and we provide reminders and education throughout our events.

Support is provided through our SoulSupport team on-site at every major event. SoulSupport are peer counselors ready to offer a listening ear, a nurturing hug, or intervene if necessary.

The SoulPlay Guide to
Playful Times

How to Cultivate a Yes Culture

Get curious & clear

Asking for a hug before hugging someone is the SoulPlay way. Saying, "I like you and I'd like to get to know you" is hot. Finding out what level of connection a person is up for BEFORE engaging is awesome.

Listen for the “Oh Yes”!

Yes means yes, everything else means no or time to clarify.
Not doing anything until you hear, see, and feel a “YES!” is how we do it at SoulPlay.

The only constant is change

Just because someone says yes once doesn’t mean they’ll say it again. Changing one’s mind in the middle is totally valid. Saying “Thank you for taking care of yourself” when they say “no” will blow them away.

SlOW DOWN

Slowing down supports deep listening. Listen with your entire body for the “no”, the “maybe”, the “I’m not sure” inside yourself and the other person. It is much easier to stop while going slow and will help everyone to know when you’ve hit a boundary and avoid regrets.

Ooops...I overstepped a boundary

Being a caring person is less about avoiding mistakes and more about how you clean them up after they happen. Be ready to listen and take feedback when someone tells you things went too far. 

The possibilities are endless

Just because one thing can’t happen doesn’t mean something else is out. Hitting a bump is a call for creativity. “I’m not up for that, but I’d be into…” is skillful negotiating. Remember, a clear no helps everyone move on to other possibilities.

Honesty is the best policy

Being truthful about your relationship status, your availability, and your expectations is important. If your connection gets sexual, discussing your habits and health risks are the foundation of being a SoulPlay rockstar.

Check-in at the end

Having a clear closing is key to keeping your SoulPlay sweeties feeling cared for and respected. Honor them to the end and thank them for sharing themselves with you.

SoulSupport is here

See the SoulSupport team if you need emotional support, have questions, want to learn how to be smooth at asking for what you want. We’re here for you if you’ve had a fight, something felt off, or if you have questions about how to handle and issue.

See something that needs attention?

If you see or experience behavior that is inappropriate or out of line at SoulPlay events, please tell the SoulSupport Team or SoulStaff. We like to catch consent breaks early and often so we can prevent further issues. (Examples: lack of sobriety, you feel unsafe, you’ve said STOP more than once.)
SoulPlay is a playful place for connection, growth, & joy. However, not everyone will want to play with you. That’s okay. Here are our SoulPlay rules of etiquette so everyone feels at choice.

Talk to each other and get explicit consent before engaging in playful activities.

“Yes” means yes. Assume everything else means no. Hesitation or “maybe” means “no” or there’s something to clarify (see “yes” means yes). Ask questions, talk, make a counter offer.
A “yes” once does not mean “yes” in the future. Don’t make assumptions.

Want an interaction to end but you don’t know what to say? Our universal word is STOP.

If someone says STOP to you, that means play ends immediately. If you can, talk about what just happened so it doesn’t happen again. If you don’t feel comfortable talking, the SoulSupport team is here to help.
See the SoulSupport team (located in the main space near the info booth and with glowing green bands) if you need emotional support, have questions, want to learn how to be smooth in your consent talk, or need HELP.

If you see or experience behavior that is inappropriate or out of line please tell the  SoulSupport Team or SoulStaff. We like to catch consent breaks early and often so we can prevent more traumatic violations. (examples: lack of sobriety, you feel unsafe, you’ve said STOP more than once.)

Our Approach

Education
- Community Guidelines and Values
- Articles and other educational resources

During SoulPlay Events
- SoulSupport - Trained staff to support any emotional needs (personal and/or inter-personal)
- Soulful Guide to Playful Times - our consent etiquette

Incidents
- Incident Reporting Form
- Intervention Policy

Incident Reporting

At Soul Play we take safety seriously and we know not all issues can or should be dealt with in the moment. That’s why we have the Incident Report. Please use this form to report any small or large issue.

Resources

SoulPlay offers emotional support teams during every festival. The emotional support team is there to support your experience as we understand the workshops and interpersonal experiences can bring up difficult feelings. Please feel free to use the SoulSupport services while at our events.

Will you join us?

September 19th - 22nd 2019 | Cobb, CA