SoulPlay creates environments that encourage people to come together, expand and grow, and experience bliss. In order to expand and grow, people need to get out of their comfort zone and take risks. We believe, if we are inviting our participants to take risks we must prioritize creating a safer space for everyone.
Just because someone says yes once doesn’t mean they’ll say it again. Changing one’s mind in the middle is totally valid. Saying “Thank you for taking care of yourself” when they say “no” will blow them away.
Slowing down supports deep listening. Listen with your entire body for the “no”, the “maybe”, the “I’m not sure” inside yourself and the other person. It is much easier to stop while going slow and will help everyone to know when you’ve hit a boundary and avoid regrets.
Being a caring person is less about avoiding mistakes and more about how you clean them up after they happen. Be ready to listen and take feedback when someone tells you things went too far.
Just because one thing can’t happen doesn’t mean something else is out. Hitting a bump is a call for creativity. “I’m not up for that, but I’d be into…” is skillful negotiating. Remember, a clear no helps everyone move on to other possibilities.
Being truthful about your relationship status, your availability, and your expectations is important. If your connection gets sexual, discussing your habits and health risks are the foundation of being a SoulPlay rockstar.
Having a clear closing is key to keeping your SoulPlay sweeties feeling cared for and respected. Honor them to the end and thank them for sharing themselves with you.
See the SoulSupport team if you need emotional support, have questions, want to learn how to be smooth at asking for what you want. We’re here for you if you’ve had a fight, something felt off, or if you have questions about how to handle and issue.
If you see or experience behavior that is inappropriate or out of line at SoulPlay events, please tell the SoulSupport Team or SoulStaff. We like to catch consent breaks early and often so we can prevent further issues. (Examples: lack of sobriety, you feel unsafe, you’ve said STOP more than once.)
Asking for a hug before hugging someone is the SoulPlay way. Saying, "I like you and I'd like to get to know you" is hot. Finding out what level of connection a person is up for BEFORE engaging is awesome.
Yes means yes, everything else means no or time to clarify. Not doing anything until you hear, see, and feel a “YES!” is how we do it at SoulPlay.
- Community Guidelines and Values
- Articles and other educational resources
- SoulSupport - Trained staff to support any emotional needs (personal and/or inter-personal)
- Soulful Guide to Playful Times - our consent etiquette
- Incident Reporting Form
- Intervention Policy